Words

they do hurt, even if you are an adult they do hurt. I have been having a lot of issues at work with one of our "lines" that are all women. And with that comes the "she said, she said" type of mentality. And yes words do hurt. We all in our lifetime have been talked about by someone whether good or bad. We can all think of one instance or another where something was said about us that wasn't even true. When you hear something about you that isn't true your first reaction is to defend yourself but what if you are unable to. What if it is something that you know someone said and you know it isn't true but you are unable to talk to that person face to face for various reasons. What do you do?

You be the bigger person. People are going to have opinions about you. Not everyone is going to like you and that is okay, but when you are in a workplace and you have to work with that person 8 hours a day it can create a hostile environment. And who wants to work in a place like that. Hopefully the consequence of what happened yesterday will get the girls thinking and hopefully there may come some "tolerance" out of this situation. You don't have to like each other but you do have to get a long especially when you are working together - you know.

I know there are things said about me and there probably is something negative said about me every day but I choose to be the bigger person - to not worry about it. I can't say that I don't care about it because we all care about what people think of us and we all want to be liked, but at the end of the day I know what the truth is and so does God - so let people say what they want to say you know - and will it really matter at the end of your life when you are getting ready to go home what was said about you 20 years ago or even a month ago. It is funny in going through this situation at work you learn how unforgiving women really are especially towards another woman. Men can have an argument and that night go out and get a beer and everything is fine, women no way. Once you do us wrong, or once you say something about us, or once you do anything towards us you have created an enemy for life, or lets just say we wouldn't be going out for a beer anytime soon. We can't forgive so easily because we can't forget.

funny how God made men and women so different - so different.

I read this the other day about words on a devotional site that I read all of the time. I almost gave it to the girls yesterday but I didn't. But it is a good reminder for all of us, because we all go through it at one time or another.

His truth Sets us free!

You do not have to let other’s hurtful words deine you anymore. Those who spoke them did not give their lives, as Jesus did, to prove your worth. Many of us have experienced spiritual identity theft. We’ve lost our confidence in who we are in Christ, and we feel worthless or wounded by someone’s words. Others of us hold in our heats a false identity. We belive a lie about ourselves and that lie defines us. I know hurtful words don’t go away effortlesslty but healing can happen and as hard as it is to fight those lies.

Speak the Truth

Whenever a lie is spoken to you or enters your mind speak this phrase to yourself out loud: that is a lie. The truth is… then say the truth out loud so your mind will hear your mouth. For example, if someone speaks a hurtful word to you, then speak to yourself out loud, that is a lie. The truth is my worth is not in what anyone else says about me. I will not allow someon’s hurtful words define me any longer. 

Read the truth:

Chosen by God (1 Peter 2:9)

A New creation (2 Cor, 5:17)

Trophy of his grace (Eph 2:8)

His beloved bride (Ps 45:11)

Do not let people define you, only you can define you. You may have made mistakes in your life we all have, no one is perfect. the ones that are saying things about you just don't have anything better to do and they are probably jealous. You Define you, not others!

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I hope everyone enjoys their weekend - it is March Madness, I love this time of the year and everything is beginning to bloom again - it is Renewal season!

Miss and love you dad ~ so much.

Much love and happiness to all!