Uncle Dave had sent me some times for Masses that he had set up at St. Timothy's Church in Union Ky. They are February 18 at 8:00pm for dad and February 21 at 7:00am for Uncle Wally if anyone would like to attend.
He also sent me a wonderful excerpt from a book called The Four Things That Matter the Most by Ira Byock. It basically talks about four things you need to say for improving your relationships and for your life. Because no one knows when their time is up, even if the doctors tell you, they could be wrong (at least we hope they are), because they are only human too. The four things you need to say are : Please forgive me. I forgive you. Thank you. I love you.
We all assume that we know our parents love us, our family, brothers/sisters, friends but how many times do you say it. Do you tell them everyday when you are on the phone with the person or do you only tell them when there is a crisis going on. I know for me and for my siblings that I tell both mom and dad every time I leave the house when I am over. They get a kiss and hug and I love you! I even make my kids do it, and so does everyone else.
So even if you think that person or people in your life know that you love them, go ahead and say it anyway - it's not going to hurt, it will only improve your life and if you were to die in the night then at least the people here who are left knew how you felt and weren't left wondering. (BUT I don't want anyone to die) - Just saying......
Sorry for the rambling post and that it is so late.
Much love to all,
Wow! So much truth to that! Thank you Michele and thank you Uncle Dave!!
ReplyDeleteI know that growing up in our house, we didn't always "say" the words. Matter of fact, it wasn't until my mom and dad moved to Florida that I remembered having that empty feeling inside...and then all of those feelings of regret for not saying the words all of those years! That was my first wake up call! From that moment on, I was always telling them that I loved them! Unfortunately, it was now when I talked to them on the phone versus leaving their house. It just goes to prove that you don't know what you've got til it's gone! But thankfully, they had only moved to Florida, so it was my "wake up call" instead! I LOVE YOU GUYS!!! :)
A quick update on my dad....His medicine was approved by the insurance company! He should be getting it soon! They have to run another test on his legs, one called an MRA. It's like an MRI, but they put some dye in his arteries first. We are praying for some relief of the pain in his legs and in his abdomen. Hopefully, with some re-gained strength, they can make the trip up to Kentucky for a quick visit. I am trying to schedule a trip to Florida to see them as well....maybe in March?
I'll keep you updated!! Thank you to everyone reading this blog for your thoughts and prayers!! Prayer is a powerful thing! We are grateful for everyday that we have here on earth!!!
Love,
Turtle
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ReplyDeleteSome days I can't figure this blog technology out.
ReplyDeleteAnyway I am so proud of you girls. You are both right. You never know what you have until its gone, You have been blessed with a great gift from God and that is the Gift of TIME. Maybe 6 months maybe 6 years but none the less TIME To say what you need to say, Love more, stand together as a family to be strong. Life after Death is forever. So NOW take the time to LIVE! LOVE! LAUGH! PRAY!
I will keep your families in my prayers.
Love Sue
Turtle and Michele....you girls are each a gift to your families!I'm glad that this blog is here to keep us updated on both Bill and Wally!
ReplyDeleteI found this quote (don't know who wrote it) but I think it sums up how we have all lived our lives so far....
Live a good, honorable life. Then when you get older and think back, you'll enjoy it a second time!
I know that for me, looking back over the decades at all the family gatherings it has been a joy to see all the new faces (births, engagements, weddings)and try to remember who is with who and how old the little ones are getting. I have always enjoyed the picnics, xmas parties, weddings, showers and just sitting around with a drink and bullsh---ing(which I tend to do a lot of).
You and your families are in my thoughts and prayers and if I can do anything let me know!
Love,
"Aunt" Carol
what a beautiful day! there is beautiful snow on the ground, the sun is shinging, bill,s having a good day and i'm off of work. It doesn't get any better than that.
ReplyDeleteI want to thank everyone for their thoughts, prayers and everything else.It is great to have so much support.
Tomorrow Bill is joined by captain Chemo in his battle (picture pac-man chomping at the "thing") see how many levels we win!! Bill 10 Cancer 0 !
That old saying is true " if you force yourself to have a smile on your face, pretty soon you won't be pretending" I think I just made that up but it should be an old saying. Have a great day everyone and keep on smiling!!
Cooki & Bill